Pause. Create Time for the Important.

E133: Rest & Recap 19 - The Grief Series GOX-LHR-YYZ-NYC

The Trick about Time

Time is malleable. PAUSE. Create a pocket of time for the someone or something that is important to you.

Rest element 19: The important over the urgent

Ponder a way around the excuses. Save a few minutes in your day for what is most meaningful - the important over the urgent. Time refuses to stand still while we figure out groceries and car pool. P-A-U-S-E. Take a minute to rediscover the people and projects that mean the most to you. I am grateful I got to spend the past four months with my mother.

This post started from a rocking chair in Goa, continued at LHR airport in London, and edited at YYZ airport in Toronto. Finally polished and published from home before heading to NYC.

** Meetups? In NYC April 3-4. DM me **

These recent six editions have certainly detoured for the core themes of Climate and Future of Work. But understanding the cycle of life and death plays a pivotal part in Raising Future Ready Leaders. Separation and transitions are necessary 21st-century skills. As is the counter-intuitive practice of reflecting and looking back as a way of preparing for and jumping ahead to the future.

[To the 13 newest members of Tribe Tilt, welcome to the “Rest & Recap” editions. Every 7th edition, we pause, advocate for proactively programming in a rest break (21st century life hack) and reflect on the direction of the past weeks. We are looking for patterns and searching for learning. (Tell me more about the Rest & Recap edition¹)]

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Recap: Digest of issues 127 - 132

21st-CENTURY SKILLS in this cycle: Yes. This cycle of seven deals strongly with grief. But I hope it also talks about three other topics that are crucial to a young leader-in-the-making:

• Understanding what is importance to you. Create time to focus on what is most important, without getting distracted by what is urgent.

• The value of relationships. Both personal (my mother and siblings), and what a robust community brings in the way of support.

• Using frameworks/traditions as a harness when transitioning in the middle of uncertainty. (h/t

  Vicky Zhao
  for clarifying that thinking)

Speaking of community, I have been coddled, enveloped and overwhelmed with the love and support from so many relatives, readers and Tribe Tilt members. I hope to pay forward all this love and kindness.

Tribe Tilt has many budding writers. I'd frequently share your posts with my mom. She was a word-smith at heart and was captivated by your diverse, high-quality thoughts, skillfully spun to land on the line in such perfect formation. We'd smile at each other after a great sentence, especially when it was someone young². It restored our faith that the world is in good hands when people find the courage to publish their ideas.

• From

  James Bailey
  : If “The life you live is the lesson you teach” your mom achieved tenure a long time ago and had a huge student- body.

• From

  Brooke Smith
  : the sound of those bells.

  I really appreciate your encouragement to write the eulogy now. I actually started one when my dad had a major medical procedure last year, really as a way to help me process what was happening but I was silently judging myself as I wrote it. Thanks for making me feel not so weird about it

• From

  Linart Seprioto
  : Your writing is making me reflect about the relationship I have with my family. We're in a bit of a rough patch right now, but your writing has been reminding me about what truly matters.

I’ll like you forever. I’ll love you for always.
As long as I am living, my mommy you’ll be.
— Robert Munsch “Love You Forever”

Take the long view: The Care-EcoSystem & Longevity

FUTURE OF WORK/21st-CENTURY SKILLS: If we are playing the long game on the Future of Work (as this newsletter is prone to do), then these two editions started poking at some underlying opportunities for us to imagine and create a better Future of Work (FoW):

1. The Care Equation that Indra Nooyi also touches on in her book My Life in Full. As more working individuals find themselves caring for aging relatives and/or children, how do we re-envision work to support them? Financially, with flexibility, and by keeping them vibrantly engaged in the work eco-system.

2. Longevity. “longevity, not old age, because building a world where the majority of people thrive in old age requires attention to the entire life span. Research shows clearly that education, exercise, nutritional habits, financial decisions, and social choices early in life have substantial implications for quality of life at advanced ages.” [https://longevity.stanford.edu/about/]

• From

  Joann
  (Awake to Racism) - … of giving to your family, but they need you for the long haul, so I'm happy to hear messages to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF too

• From

  Becky Isjwara
  : "If you haven’t yet been a carer, as a parent or of a parent, you may be one within 20 years." that's a truth bomb right there. Something I wouldn't have been able to see / predict in my shortsighted vision.

Once upon a time, in a universe a million light years away, I was presenting my book at the Goa Literature Festival. An invitation to enjoy how words twist and turn!

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Karena

Dateline: India, UK, Canada

1. The Rest editions offer a break - like a 7th-inning stretch - for me and our Tribe. It's a chance for learning consolidation (a 21st-century skill). https://tiltthefuture.substack.com/i/85450996/what-is-a-rest-edition

2. Some of the many that made my mother smile with their ingenuity, puns and word-smithing

Cindy Villanueva

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Baxter Blackwood

Linart Seprioto

Silvio Castelletti

Rick Lewis

Dekera Greene Rodriguez

Brooke Smith

Emma Dorge

Ishan Shanavas

and many more